Marriage, Cigarettes, and Health

If you think marital strife isn’t a big deal, think again.  While it’s normal to argue with your spouse, the way that you argue could have detrimental effects on your health that are far worse than you may think.

Marital fighting that includes hostility may have the same effect on your health as smoking or having high cholesterol. In other words, you could be a health nut who eats nothing but spinach, berries, and salmon each day and still have the same chance of dying from cancer as a smoker if you fight nasty with your spouse.  How’s that for a wake up call?

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How to Build Your Child’s Self Esteem

If you grew up listening to Madonna, you were probably raised during the era of “self esteem.”  Self esteem became a buzz word back in the 80s when our parents were encouraged to build our self esteems with positive praise.  Given the fact that adults thrive on positive praise, this approach makes sense…..and so many of us listened to positive praise, deserved or not, as we stood on the soccer fields or basketball courts.  Our parents, coaches, and teachers cheered for us whether or not we really deserved it, we “won” a ribbon regardless of victory, and most kids made the team regardless of skill……all in the name of self esteem. Continue reading “How to Build Your Child’s Self Esteem” »

Pleasant Conversations

A conversation with Spirit Airline Flight Attendant Five Star General Bossy Pants:

Bossy Pants:  Ma’am, we’re preparing for landing.

Me: OK, thanks.

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Balance=Mediocrity

MYTH: We should strive for balance.

REALITY: The word “balance” is code for mediocrity.

This is one of my personal pet peeves.  When I hear someone reference “balance,”  it’s usually in conversation with a mother. Personally, I have no interest in balance because I loathe mediocrity. Continue reading “Balance=Mediocrity” »